The Human Condition
Over the course of 23 years I have had the privilege of working with individuals and groups from all walks of life, from millionaires to people living on social service benefits, so poor they could barely buy food or diapers for their children.
They have had different professions including doctors, lawyers, psychologists, computer experts, executives, very successful independent business entrepreneurs, teachers, social workers, artists, nurses, therapists, landscapers, laborers, accountants, government employees and college professors.
Some have been unemployed, some have never worked and some gathered empty bottles to exchange for coins.
Some have engaged in illegal activities to make money. Some have doctoral level educations and some have third grade educations and everything in between.
They have been from the United States and from other countries.
Some have come voluntarily and some have been mandated to treatment. They have presented themselves with a range of problems. Alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, relationship problems, depression, anxiety, phobias, anger, loneliness, family problems, medical conditions, fear, sexual addiction, etc.
With all of the profound outer differences and stations in life, all of these people share some very important commonalities. This is what I refer to as the "human condition."
They feel afraid, unworthy and ashamed. They don't feel good enough. They don't feel like they have anything (or enough) to offer. They feel like an "imposter." They don't feel like they deserve to have wants or needs, or to have them met. They feel unlovable. They judge themselves harshly and mercilessly. They can do something that is 98% right or healthy and still berate themselves or feel like a failure.